Self-Esteem: Our Habits are Parallel to Self-Confidence

My topic today is self-esteem. Many of us struggle with it from time to time, while some battle it daily. Self-esteem has very little to do with appearance, and more to do with how we see ourselves. My argument is that our self-esteem is parallel to our decisions. When our self-esteem is high, we create an ecosystem of good habits. We do not excuse ourselves from hard work because we are confident that we can do anything. We are constantly assessing the people closest to us. We are constantly evolving. We do not settle for instant gratification. We understand the process. We understand patience is essential. We choose the path of resistance. There is not an overindulgence in bad habits and behaviors. There is self-awareness, self-control and self-correction. Our self-esteem is high when we are confident in ourselves. How do we build confidence? We build healthy habits. The more we build healthy habits, the more trust we have in ourselves. The more trust we have in ourselves, the more we believe in ourselves when we set goals. If we are not there yet, self-reflection is our muse. We must reflect on where we are and if where we are is in line with where we want to be. We must reflect on the people around us. Are they disciplined? Are they grateful? Are they honest? Are they trustworthy? Are they responsible? Are they accountable? Do they have good character? Are we these things? Realistically, not what we think we are. What is the evidence that we are who we say that we are? How do we know we are these things. If we can’t start naming the things that make us responsible or accountable or disciplined, ultimately, we are not those things. We just think we are, and we talked about delusion last week. We must evolve. How? We start with small attainable habits that build our portfolio of being the person we say we are. If we say we want to do something that will aid in personal growth, we do it without excuses even if we have reasons. Reasons do not relieve us of accountability, but excuses do. If we want healthy relationships, then we must disassociate, no matter how hard, from people who aren’t healthy. If we say we want a better job, we must be better. If we want to lose weight, we must make food choices that honor that decision. Be authentic 93% of the time. I say 93% because none of us are perfect, but a 93 is an A+ and if you’re accountable for that 7% where you may get things wrong it won’t hurt you in the long run. The more we continue to drill down on our habits, we build and cultivate confidence because we make choices and decisions that honor our well-being. When we are well, we have a healthy view of ourselves, and we will choose not to continuously flirt with ideas and people that do not reflect our self-esteem. I’ll let you in on a secret. People already have their perception of us made up in their minds and it will not change no matter how much we evolve. We will always be that same person to them, so there is no need to self-sabotage and think lower of yourself when you can just move around and embrace the energy and new people that see you as high as you see yourself! So, again, what about your self-esteem? Let’s get it together this year. There is a beautiful future ahead of us all if we embrace what it takes to get there.

Peace,

Cici